Dating a pregnancy after miscarriage
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Our witness to life must address the pain and grieving experienced by those who have lost a child.
As Catholics and people of life, we are called to draw close to these parents and provide care and comfort to their aching hearts.
A friend who recently lost a child through miscarriage called to express disappointment that she didn’t know where to turn for the resources and support she and her husband so desperately needed.
This heartbreaking conversation reminded me of another friend who miscarried a child at six months of pregnancy, but who masked her pain with a smile instead of reaching out for comfort.
Though each experienced the deep pain of losing a child, neither received the loving support she deserved. Though most miscarriages occur very early in pregnancy, often before the woman knows she is pregnant, as many as 15% of known pregnancies end in miscarriage.
Our culture and even some church communities don’t always recognize this loss, leaving women or couples to deal with their pain alone.
So what can we do to help parents grieve their loss and witness to the gift of their child’s life?
We can acknowledge their loss, support them as they grieve, and direct them to helpful resources. First, don’t dismiss their loss with comments like “You’re young; you’ll conceive again soon,” or “You still have your other children.” Instead, make time to listen as they share their pain. Offer your condolences and prayers, and ask if there is anything they need.
Direct the parents to their parish priest, who can help them organize a memorial service, funeral or burial.
The Order of Christian Funerals has prayers for a stillborn child, and the Book of Blessings includes a blessing for parents that can be administered by a priest or deacon after a miscarriage.
Some blessings can even be adapted for use by a layperson.
Keep in mind that the father and mother may have different emotional needs.
She might feel the loss more directly, or wonder if somehow she caused the miscarriage. The father may need space to eventually feel comfortable sharing how the loss affects him, and may even need time to take his mind off things.